Updated: Dec 7, 2020
I sat in silence, pondering the words our son shared. He was looking for answers and purpose. He needed hope.
He was diagnosed with a learning difference last year. There are many misconceptions and most don’t truly comprehend its affects within and beyond the academic realm. That’s why it may seem dramatic when we say that he is climbing his personal Mount Everest. But it really is that hard. He is beginning to understand that this “difference,” with its advantages, is also the source of his struggles.
He has questions. It’s hard to know what to say because I don’t possess the specifics of why he was created in this beautifully complex way.
I recently reviewed punctuation marks with our six year old. He pointed to a question mark and exclaimed, “It’s the mystery mark!” His logic made me smile because it made sense. Everyone has their own collection of “mystery marks” in life. Perhaps the biggest are those that seem to have no answer.
We can find hope and purpose when we go to God with our questions.
He has given us the answers we need (Romans 8:28-29).
We live in a broken world. We see and feel the affects everyday. God gave us what we need and don’t deserve – Jesus. Whether or not God gives answers to specific questions will not alter the over-arching intent for His children. It isn’t cliche to say that, for those who love Him, all things will work together for good and will be used to make us more like Him.
God’s character is trustworthy at all times (Psalm 33:4-5).
Circumstances can not innovate God. He is “I AM.” That explanation isn’t comforting until we stop trying to shape God into who we want or imagine. Through the Bible, we can correctly understand God’s attributes and identity. Knowing Him for who He truly is makes trusting him easier to practice.
He equips us to better empathize with and comfort others.
There is a quote by C.S. Lewis that says, “Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.'” Isolation is deadly because we need others to emphatically point us to truth. When given the opportunity to play the role of comforter and guide, we discover new meaning from our experiences. Two of the most hope-filled words in a story are “but God.”
All that happens in our lives is for God’s glory (Romans 11:36).
This is the bottom line – it’s not about us. It’s about God. Questions are opportunities to seek and know Him. We make much of God when we follow Him with faithful assurance.
I sat in silence, pondering the words my son shared. He was looking for answers and purpose. He needed hope. Arm around him, I began to speak…
“Bud, I wish there was a way to take this for you. I don’t know exactly why God is allowing this in your life, but I’m confident that He created you perfectly. There is nothing about you – nothing – that is a mistake because God never makes mistakes. We can trust that He has an amazing plan because He rescued you. I know He is working today to prepare you for tomorrow. That doesn’t mean this isn’t hard. It is. It’s okay to tell Him how you feel, but God wants you to trust Him even in those feelings. He knows it’s hard and scary. That’s why He comforts us with his word and promises of his love, goodness, and purpose. When you have questions and uncertainties, you have to make a choice to believe that God is who He says. And someday, maybe sooner than you think, God will bring someone into your life who needs Him. You will understand that person on a level others can’t because of what is happening now. You’ll be able to tell them about Jesus and give a reason for them to hope. But, for right now, keep asking God your questions and trust him.”
In life there are many mystery marks, but there are answers.
For my son. For you. For me.
“Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need” (Hebrews 4:16).