Find Your Dock
Updated: Jan 13, 2021
We sat on the dock under the hot sun and dangled our feet in the lake. My husband and I were in the middle of an argument. I wanted to push him away (or at least into the water), but we have an agreement. When we are upset, we move toward the other. We made that decision on a good day but, let me tell you, it’s hard to practice when the waters are choppy!
We are surrounded by sinners who, like ourselves, often make messes. Marriages, families, and friendships experience the brokenness that results from living in a fallen world. Relationships consistently need mending (1 Peter 4:8).
But human relationships aren’t the only area that are difficult at times. Though Jesus promised that He would be “with [us] always” (Mt. 28:20), there are times we may not feel close to Him. Sometimes God allows us to experience desert places so that we will have a greater thirst for Him (Psalm 63:1). It may be that we experience a rift in relationship as a result of unrepented sin (1 John 1:7-9). We may feel anger, disappointment, hurt, or doubt toward Him when circumstances change or are difficult. It can be tough to “draw near to God” (James 4:8).
A common reaction in these scenarios is to retreat from Him and His people (the Church), but that is not God’s design. We were created to be in relationship. The Lord reconciles us to Himself and has placed us in “the ministry of reconciliation” with others (1 Cor. 5:18-19).
Wisdom is needed in all relationships. There are some that are unsafe or unhealthy. It is okay to create boundaries and even step away in those situations (always seeking the Lord and wise counsel). But, in regards to our relationship with God and those that draw us to Him, we need to be prepared for the times we will be temped to pull away. Have an plan in place to move towards others instead.
Here are two truths to encourage you to choose relationship:
GOD IS ALWAYS PRESENT AND FORGIVES THE REPENTANT: It’s impossible to truly comprehend the depth of God’s love for us. Nothing can make Him stop loving His children (Romans 8:38-39). When He seems distant, think on what is true and sit in His Words. When we create a rift in relationship because of sin, don’t hide like Adam and Eve in the garden. Call for His rescue!
CHOOSING CLOSENESS WITH OTHERS IS TO FOLLOW HIS EXAMPLE: Jesus did not walk through life alone. He surrounded Himself with people. Sometimes Jesus did need quiet time away from friends – to be alone with the Father. If you’ve been hurt or rejected as I have, I understand how very hard it is to choose relationship again because of fear and deep wounds. Even Jesus was betrayed by one who was in His inner circle, but He still walked forward with loved ones. Relationships, though challenging, are one of the sweetest gifts God gives in this life. God can use even the painful ones for good.
There is One who knows our names and He is our safe place. Fill your heart and mind with His truth and sit in the presence of Love.
Sometimes that presence is felt through His people. Let others love on, minister to, and encourage you. Be that person for someone else.
I am familiar with the appeal that giving up and pulling away holds. It is an easy choice. Will you join me in the hard decision not to run and hide?
Find your dock. Choose presence.